What if the way we parent today is shaping the adults our kids will become – and shared parenting holds the missing piece?”

Shared parenting is a game-changer for families, especially in today’s diverse and dynamic world. By sharing responsibilities, decisions, and emotional loads, parents can create a more balanced, supportive, and loving environment for their kids.

Research shows shared parenting leads to:

– Better child outcomes: Kids with involved dads and moms tend to have better academic performance, emotional stability, and social skills. While it may be true that there’s only anecdotal evidence so far, it is essential to point out that, as a general belief, children raised in a single mother’s home suffer far more devastating consequences (incarcerations, addictions, runaways, prostitution, etc.) overall, in their later lives. (The negative impacts may not be seen sooner, but rather, in the future.)

– Reduced parental stress: Sharing the load decreases burnout and anxiety, boosting overall well-being

– Healthier relationships: Co-parents model respect, communication, and teamwork for their kids

However, shared parenting isn’t without challenges. Societal expectations, custody battles, and differing parenting styles can create roadblocks. Of special concern and considered by many as a profoundly serious issue, is Malicious Parent Syndrome (MPS).

MPS occurs when one parent (believed to be the mother in many cases) undermines the other, often to gain an advantage in custody disputes. Signs include denigrating the other parent, limiting contact, or making false allegations. MPS can devastate kids and targeted parents, causing emotional distress and long-term relationship damage.

Potential Solutions for Healthier Co-Parenting.

1. Flexible arrangements: Tailor shared parenting plans to your family’s needs.

2. Support policies: Advocate for family-friendly policies like shared parental leave.

3. Communication tools: Use apps or planners to stay on the same page.

Of special note is that the Global Day of Parents is celebrated annually on June 1st via the United Nations

By prioritizing shared parenting and addressing challenges such as MPS, families can create a more equitable, supportive, and loving environment. Let’s work toward co-parenting that puts children first.

Ultimately, everybody wins!

…and here’s a parting question:

What if the true legacy of shared parenting isn’t in the wins but the way we showed up?

Dipchand Ramcharitar

Director

Outreach and Development

Voice of Men 360

226-289-8784

Resources:

– Pleck, J. H. (2010). Paternal Involvement: Revised Conceptualization and Theoretical Linkages.

– Canadian courts recognize MPS in custody decisions (e.g., AB v CD, 2019).

– McCarthy, P., & Edwards, R. (2011). _Mothers and Fathers, Families and Relationships_. Policy Press.

– YouTube: The Importance of Shared Parenting by Dr. Michael Yogev (family therapist)

– Article: “The Benefits of Shared Parenting” by Psychology Today

– Canadian Men’s Health Foundation: Shared Parenting resources

– Shared Parenting Canada: Advocacy and resources for co-parenting